Updated: Dec 2, 2020
Dating in today's society is challenging and can be stressful. Why? Well, simply because many people don't have any good intentions or aren't sure about what they want. There are people out there who don't even know how they want to be loved and, it is the WORST when they don't communicate the mental state they're in from dia numero uno!
Always ask the "What are you looking for?" question on the first date.
I'll tell you why later. Keep reading.
They never initiate dates: If you are always the one coming up with ideas to see them, this is a problem. When someone is interested in you, trust and believe they will try to see you often and will come up with ideas to link up. I am not saying you can't plan anything, but just don't over do it. Always see how far they go first!
They are always on their phone: The attention should be on each other and not constantly on their phone. Always pay attention if they have their phone facing up or down; it be the little details that matter.
They don't want to give the relationship a title: You BETTER run! Usually, when people tell you "I don't like titles" blah blah, they are not looking for anything serious with you OR they are not sure if they want to be with you. Someone who really knows what they want will not tell you that.
They'll only hang out with you in the late night hours: You are not a "booty call". Don't allow anyone to ONLY make time for you late at night, specially in the beginning stages of the dating process. It is disrespectful and it shows they are only interested in sex. Bye Bozo!
They do not call you at night time: You already know what that means. Most likely, they have a partner and they are being sneaky. Unless you are okay with that, let them go and don't waste your time if you are looking for a long term relationship.
Lack of Communication: We all know communication is key in EVERY relationship, it is very important to have conversation and communicate from the beginning stages to be clear about where the conversation is going. Don't kill yourself trying to make someone communicate with you because you should't have to force them to do so.
I think it's very critical to ask the "What are you looking for"? question on the first date because from there you will know the person's intentions (or at least you will have an idea) to even give them a chance to go on a second date.
I don't like my time wasted so, I like to know what I'm going to be dealing with. In addition, keep in mind that just because they give you a great answer it does not mean they are being honest. However,Actions always speak louder than words.
I hope you enjoyed the read.